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When i am spending quiet “quality” time with my dog – sitting with him in the back yard or on the floor in the house, “lovin’ on him” as they like to say in these Appalachian mountains or “making out with him” as my friend Lynn likes to say – i believe that i am doing more than simply giving him love and attention.

I really believe that i am helping him to “recharge his batteries” or even to “make a deposit in his emotional/energetic bank account”.  In my way of seeing it, it goes beyond even making him a happier dog – which i have no question that this cuddle time definitely does.  It sure looks to me (I see the evidence in how he then behaves) that this doggie/daddy time leaves him more confident, more resourceful and more resilient.  Rather than becoming a whoosy little lap dog from all this love, i see him sometimes immediately becoming stronger, more inquisitive and exploratory, more enthusiastic in his play with the neighbor dog – just bolder all around.

This process of “charging his batteries” – or even more if you think of it as “deposits in his emotional/energetic bank account” – may be more significant or clearly impactful with a traumatized, shy, skittish, insecure dog like my Buddy.  It may be particularly less important with a dog that is more strongly instinct-driven and less relationally oriented (less focused on close bonding with humans – which is clearly a very big driver for Buddy.)  He may just need it more than some other dogs.

But i think it is a useful way to think about our connecting with all of our dogs: giving them love is more than giving them love – it is, in a real and direct way, making them more healthy, more functional, maybe even more intelligent.

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